Monday, March 18, 2013

The Letter I Wrote To My Daughter's Principal



Dear Mrs. X et al,

What can one frazzled mom say aside from, “Yeah – she did it again?”

As far as we know, she got both the lotion and the ear buds from different students on the bus. She claims she can’t remember where she got the change, leaving us to wonder if she might have taken it from one of the “Men In Black” considering her apparent loss of recollection. (Or perhaps aliens took the change and planted it in our daughter’s sock drawer… we may never know!)

Although it has occurred to us that she may have been a packrat in her last life and simply suffers from flash-backs to her former rodent state, Iraq’s psychiatrist tells us that her kleptomania falls under the OCD behaviors… that fall under her diagnosis of Asperger’s. Of course to us it all feels like falling under a cement truck. The good news is that the American Psychiatric Association is removing the “Asperger’s” diagnosis from the new revision of the diagnostic manual, meaning our daughter will no longer have the condition.

(The bad news is that this just makes her diagnosis “Autism.”)
           
At any rate, we are currently returning afore-mentioned contraband to you. Feel free to punish our daughter as you see fit… (Does the school have a dungeon? She’s a little short for her age so perhaps “The Rack” would be a good choice – and far less intrusive than thumb screws when it comes to writing assignments.) If you decide to turn her in to the police, just tell them you found her as a wandering street urchin…  or a sea urchin… whatever. It will keep them guessing for long enough to give us all a few hours off.

Please accept our deepest apologies for our daughter’s behavior. She has been doing this since she was 2 years of age and has continued stealing regardless of being subjected to every form of punishment suggested by at least 10 mental health specialists as well as some disdained grocery store patrons (who invariably started their suggestion with, “If that were my kid I would…!” ). To date, nobody has suggested The Rack or thumb screws.
…I’ll be checking eBay.

Thank you for understanding… or for not understanding but continuing to provide a quality education for our daughter.

Sincerely,


Iraq’s Mother
Iraq's Mother

Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Gender Bias and an Autism Diagnosis in Girls

I wanted to share this very good article (complete with references and research to back up the claims) about the differences in the presentation in autism with girls. This is one of the reasons getting a proper diagnosis for a daughter is far more difficult that getting the same diagnosis for a son.